Oh boy do I love this subject. As am carrying on reading in various newsletters there are many different kind of point of views on ego and our personality.
Let me give you my five-cent worth of wisdom to this (hope you brought time with you and a glass of wine or cup of tea J)
Have you ever asked yourself out of how many “you” your personality exists?
No, it is not just you and being moody. Sorry this would be far too easy.
See, it actually worked out like this . .. . .
When we were born, we were pure, love and innocent (we still are!!!). And then the world crashed down on us. Parents’ handing down unknowingly their baggage on us, as we grew older society and circumstances nudged and poked us around till it was who we are today.
What it has to do with who we are today? Easy.
Because we were innocent and pure we were not able to understand or cope with some behavior towards others or us. So to fully understand and make us “feel” better, we invented another character to help us. This new character helped us to cope and understand why certain people behaved towards us in a certain way or circumstances surrounding us had to be, the way they were. With time, this coping mechanism became reality for us. It existed, even if it wasn’t true. All this happens till we are in our teens.
Now you can understand, why it is important that children grow up in an environment as healthy as possible. I am deliberately not mentioning NORMAL, as this tends to vary in the eye of the beholder.
So if you lets say a young adult and you had a relatively rough upbringing, wow you are blessed with lots of these characters.
How you can differentiate when who is one and when?
Observe yourself. Ever caught you being nice and easy and friendly and then are on the verge of explosion? Like a Porsche 0 – 250 in 3seconds? YIP, that’s already the two of you. Then check your handwriting. Love this one. Depending how stressed I am or in what mood (or which character) my handwriting is both soft and almost angelic and then I have the biatch handwriting. .I could make a doctor jealous, it is so unreadable.
The being moody is not only a women thing, and guys have it too. Depending on who is pressing your buttons, the characters appear.
And the biggest one of all – EGO!!!!
So it is not fun to have these different sides or characters, but get to know them. Get to know you. Do not judge and be hard on yourself, as we are all the same. Yes different in a way, but all we have these sides and we all have an ego. It is just how you make it work for you, instead of against you.
Become OK with it who you are . .no no no . .doesn’t mean let now the bitch hang out and say: duuhh take it or leave it.
Means, you can choose who you want to be. Nothing on Gods Earth can make you be someone who you don’t want to be.
Now, where Schizo’s just let their characters hang out and are not aware when the switch is happening, we can.
Here the triple A can become kind of a savior to make a change and make it all work for us.
AWARE
Become aware who you are. What I mean by that, be in the moment in the now when something triggers an anger explosion. Become AWARE of it, next time you can act on it instead of re-act. No, I didn’t say it would work right away. This would be great. If you managed that . . . . . Phone me and please tell me how you did it. As I have been on my journey for quite a while and still discovering some selves.
Which is good, as, as soon you aware of that it is there . . .you can make a change. Hooray.
ACCEPTING
Ai, this is a tough one. For me that is. Accept who you are, the good sides or selves that of course is easy and the not so pleasant selves or sides.
You know accepting is kind of a surrender. Surrender to what is. You are who you are. A Leopard is never gong to change its spots. Some believes are so rooted inside of us that we cannot extinguish them.
Acceptance makes one compassionate and understanding. Makes one softer, especially towards oneself.
ALLOWING
This is another toughy. Has ever somebody taught you how to allow? Not me!! On the contrary, I have been taught first the other and then you. I have the characters inside of me who keep me safe and made me understand, that if I deprive myself of good things, I will be loved and accepted.
So allow things to happen to you. Open your heart and allow it. By allowing a change will occur, a change and balance of the characters inside of you. The biggest change will be, that you will start choosing who you want to be.
Once you OK with who you are and you decide to feed the good wolf, pat the dark wolf and allow him to walk with you. Let him be your driving force, but let the good one decide.
It is exciting and yes lots of self work and sometimes tears. But nobody said it would be easy, but they said it would be worth it.
Once you get this going, boy oh boy, you will get lighter and lighter and you will know when one of your former protector/characters kick in. Some of them with time you will be able to send in retirement.
So maybe Schizos are not so sick at all, maybe . .mmhh who knows, maybe they more normal (whatever that means) than we are.
Today I would like not only thank you for your time, today I have discovered something again. So am grateful that I was allowed to write.
As always what resonates with you.Be good to yourself and have fun with all your selves.
Am sending you love, light and lightness on this amazing journey.
Diana xox
