Bullying ... not only for little people

Besides ADD/ADHD – Bullying is the next big thing in schools and kindergarten. Have you ever wondered where it originates from? This most likely would required a closer look why and how and a pinch of honesty.

Whatever follows now, PLEASE there is no judgment involved and it is my personal view and opinion. If it resonates with you what you will read – great. If not, discard it.

As I look at bullying it seems to me a form of defense. Children do not think, they act out of impulse and intuition. They copy what they see and make it their own. So, when they feel they not coping and their needs are not met, they will have to voice it somehow to their surrounding, that they only surviving. Some kids get quiet and withdrawn, others hit and bully (as they have seen it). Plain good old attention seeking.
 

Now you may ask, can we do? Easy, find out where the child is lacking of nurturing. Meet the need and break the pattern. Yes, it is the parents’ responsibility, you quite right.

Now there where the part of I AM NOT JUDGING comes in. 

Parents have their own stuff to deal with, and I am sure we agree, the world is a rough place right now. So many demands to meet and the rat race seem never ending.
Now, parents are only humans too and cope with life and deal with what they have learned.

It is becoming aware of oneself, how we work and re-act, before we can change it into acting. And through acting a change in pattern will occur. So, once the parent becomes just a tiny bit aware of oneself and this tiny bit changes, so will the child. As we all know children, to sponge off the energies from their parents.
 

When big people bully, it is often with so much violence and anger involved, that changes are not possible anymore. Or so it often seems. Domestic violence is wide spread and often kept under wrap and only spoken about it, behind closed doors – if at all.

Please do know, THAT I AM SOOOOO aware of that and as a newly single mother, it is rough on all fronts. Own healing (aka becoming aware), being a mom, play friend, boundary setter and so much more.

Perhaps, we as society, instead of looking at it as something bad and punish. Let’s view it from a different angle and find an opportunity to break the pattern. Domestic violence and violence in general can only be broken, by showing different ways already to our children. The following step is, to heal family homes and ultimately the communities.
Yes I agree, it seems like HUGE task. But we can do and make changes. Tiny steps can do wonders.

Bullying does not have to be, take some time and make a difference. A child bullying, might not be cured with a hug. But it can put a balm on a sore or two and give hope. Hope, that violence is not always a solution and the norm. Hope, that one can be different and hope that LOVE exists.

So that little bullying children will not grow into big bullies, which do much more than just bullying.
 

A hug and a kiss, can do wonders… so does a smile and a hand reached out to help

Love and abundant blessings

D x